Brad and I now being together for
over a year, we loved adventure and the outdoors. I owned my own home, I was
financially set, healthy, happy and insanely independent.
Never in a
million years would I have anticipated what would come next.
Late 2007, an unexplained
sudden neuropathy started shutting my organs down causing them to not function
correctly. The first being my stomach which became paralyzed causing the
muscles not to work correctly. It’s a condition called Gastroparesis. I
was throwing up several times a day and became very ill almost dying of
complications of malnutrition.
My gallbladder was only
functioning at 13% which required surgery to remove it. My ovaries started
shutting down and a tumor was discovered. My pancreas stopped functioning
correctly causing a very serious reactive hypoglycemia (blood sugars were
dropping into the 40s) and insulin resistance. I was also diagnosed with
hypothyroidism.
I was very sick and felt like I
was slowly dying, at this point I had been through dozens of doctors and
loosing hope. Each new doctor visit resulted in a series of new guesses,
prescriptions that I already tried (or allergic to), more surgery, and even
surgery recommendations that would have killed me if I hadn’t did my own
research.
I recall one doctor in particular that told me I was just
depressed and to stop all my medications and start taking antidepressants. I was
devastated. I remember telling him he would be depressed too if he had to live
with a 24/7 stomach flu. I was depressed because I was sick, not sick because I
was depressed.
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My man and I, rocking the hair net! |
Surgery after surgery no one
could figure out why my organs were shutting down or how to help me. As a
last resort Brad found a Homeopathic doctor that helped me regain the
nutrients my body desperately needed. With a strict diet, therapy and
supplements, I was able to get back to a healthy weight and manage my symptoms for
a while.
Just when we would figure out a
way to manage my illnesses something else in my body would go wrong. We would
call it “another wheel falling off the bus”, as my ahhmazing boyfriend stood
strong by my side.
Brad had detailed plans for his
life and retirement , which was full of adventure and dreams. It didn’t include a girl like me that could no longer keep up with his adventurous soul. However, something happened that he didn’t plan, and that is he fell in love. I mean how could he resist right?!
We became
a team, and even through the hardest of my health challenges we just fit. He
became my biggest advocate and my second biggest hero.
Brad made the decision that he
wasn’t going to walk away from me and he would rather take the risk and
challenges of being with me ( even though at the time he thought I might die
soon) instead of being without me. He proposed and in December of 2009 we were
married.
Finding a new normal, I was
learning again how to manage my symptoms and for the most part I was doing OK.
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Who knew they used Bicycle chains?! |
Until September of 2010, when I was rear-ended on the freeway causing
several ruptured disks in my neck and damaging my spinal cord. This required a
cervical discectomy and spine fusion c2-3. 5,6,7.
Shortly after this, the level
between my fusions failed and I went in for another cervical spine surgery. A
Cervical discectomy spine fusion of C4-5.
The second spinal surgery
caused damage to my nerves creating a condition called Occipital Neuralgia.
This lead to another surgery called a bilateral occipital neurectomy ( they cut
the base of my head open and removed the occipital nerves). Unfortunately, this
surgery did not work and made my migraines worse.
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Occipital Neurectomy surgery. Sexy and I know it ;) |
In 2012, my colon completely
shut down due to complete neuropathy. A study of my colon was performed where I
swallowed 24 markers. A series of ex rays were performed and after 8 days, all
24 markers were still in my ascending colon. This required removal of
my entire colon. A complete colectomy was
performed.
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Celebrating my Birthday in the hospital
with my Brother, Niece and Nephew
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This not so fun surgery was then followed
by two bowel obstructions and another open abdominal surgery to fix the rapidly
growing adhesions. The latter of which was the night before my 40th Birthday
where my husband had planned a huge birthday party for me with family and
friends coming from out of town . Instead, my 40th Birthday was spent in the
hospital.
In 2014, after years of
complaining of chronic debilitating pain, numbness and weakness, my
doctor ordered another MRI. This showed that the 2nd cervical spinal surgery
had failed and my spine was rapidly degenerating at the levels above and below
my previous fusions. After consultation with a Neurosurgeon, a 3rd
cervical spine surgery was required.
This surgery fused my spine with rods and screws from the base of my head to my mid upper back. Levels C2-T2.
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Loving my new accessory! |
Through all of this I still
kept holding onto my job and was back to work within a few weeks of each major
surgery.
In December of 2014, I had
planned a surprise guided fishing trip for my husband.
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Yep, out fishing Brad AGAIN!! |
It takes incredible strength to
stand by a person as sick as I am and I wanted to do something special for him.
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My husband's awesome driving
skills and our car
saved our lives! |
On our way home we hit an elk totaling our car. I was taken by ambulance to the
emergency room. Thankfully, they didn’t find anything structurally wrong with my
neck. Unfortunately, my occipital neuralgia set in worse than before, causing debilitating
migraines, and worse than ever chronic neck pain.
This was the final
straw for me physically being able to return to work. I had to walk away
from a 25 year successful career that I not only poured my heart and soul into,
it was my identity. This was a huge devastating loss to me.
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Reaction from my 3rd surgery.
Years later, I discovered this
is due to my autoimmune
disease, my body
overreacts to minor injury
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In 2015, Further testing
revealed I had SLE Lupus. A couple months later I was diagnosed with a very
rare autoimmune disease called Behcets vasculitis, which is inflammation of
blood vessels. Since blood vessels are everywhere, it effects my entire body.
This also causes my body to overreact to minor injury in which we now understand why
I have had complications to the now 15 major surgeries I have had.
During this time my
cardiologist also discovered fluid around my heart (Pericardial Effusion)
which is caused from Behcets vasculitis which is attacking my heart.
In addition I was diagnosed with a condition called Postural Orthostatic
Tachycardia (POTS).
I officially became a walking medical dictionary! ;)
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My snuggle buddies |
As I continued to try the drugs
to treat my autoimmune diseases and heart issues, I continued to feel worse and
get sicker instead of better. Side effects of these dangerous medications
causing even more damage to my poor body. The final treatment option presented
to me was a form a chemotherapy.
With my current health history, I felt this
option would have had substantial consequences to my body. I declined further
treatment.
I was loosing hope and the
energy to fight. I could no longer see my future. I got my affairs in order and
wrote the hardest letter in my entire life. To my husband, my love of my life,
saying good bye.
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Fresh greens from
our organic garden |
Being as sick as I have been, I
honestly felt with all my heart that if I continued on this path of western
medicine I would die. So I started researching and studying all things
nutrition and learned the best way to heal MY body naturally. I weaned
myself off of 75% off my prescriptions, started juicing organic
vegetables everyday, eliminated all processed foods, refined sugar and
practiced gratitude every day.
Each day I would focus on finding joy
however small “joy” might be that day. I started having better days. And when I
say better days I mean I haven't had a "good" day in years and
I can't tell you the last time I have actually felt good. I call them better
bad days and worse bad days, Sometimes, I was able to spend an afternoon with
my husband without spending the next day(s) on the couch in overwhelming pain.
In 2016, although already
chronic, I started experiencing more spinal and cervical pain. MRIs showed my
spine is continuing to rapidly degenerate, and developing scoliosis that is
starting to shift from where my fusion at T2 is connected to normal bone. This
was another set back, yet I continued on a determined path of natural healing,
meditation and also discovered a love for gardening.
After my husband retired after
dedicating 34 years in the military, I was even more determined to get up
everyday and do my best to live and experience life. Despite the
consequences of pain and setbacks, it was more important than ever for me to
live not just for me but for him. After all the years he fought for our country
and for his wife, he deserved more than being stuck with a sick wife in a
drug coma stuck on the couch.
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I often paint as a way of coping with my
illness. This piece called
"Love the Broken Ones"
.She is broken. She is beautiful |
I started working with a Neuropsychologist that helped me with the major depression and illness that had been all consuming to not only me, but also our relationship.
I learned to stop focusing on the status of my health and the "what ifs" of the future. I learned the power of focusing on right now, and finding joy in this moment. I had to grieve the loss of the healthy person I once was, and I accepted the new me. The broken, but still beautiful me.
Shortly after Brad retired, we bought an RV. This made it easier for me to
travel ( walk around, lay down use the bathroom) and we started traveling
having a blast and experiencing more memories together.
There are always consequences and setbacks (increased pain) tied to travel and living life. However, it is a trade of I am willing to pay to be able to experience joy and amazing memories with the love of my life.
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I was in one of my worst flair ups in years when this photo was taken in October of 2017. I had not eaten in over 8 days and in an enormous amount of pain. We had a blast creating new memories and enjoying nature. |
In spring of 2018, I started
experiencing more significant pain in my low back, causing sciatic pain and
often times difficulty walking. Another MRI again revealed more significant
degeneration, and also bulging and torn disks with a moderate arthritis. More tests revealed my joints were moving more
than normal causing my spine to keep shifting out of alignment.
Furthermore my feet have
significant osteoarthritis, bone on bone degeneration and several fractures due
to hyper mobility of my joints (EDS)
At this point, I was very tired
of medical doctors and not very interested in anymore medical tests,
procedures, or surgeries. However, my caring primary doctor always felt
there was still something more “global causing my body to fail” and after
reviewing my latest MRI and physical therapy report, he called me into his
office to suggest I have Ehlers Danlos Syndrome (EDS) and sent me to a Genetic
Doctor who confirmed this.
Ehlers Danlos syndrome is a
rare connective tissue disease that weakens the connective tissues of your
body. These are things like tendons and ligaments that hold parts of your body
together, EDS makes your joints loose and your skin thin. It also weakens
your blood vessels and organs. Turns out this is a genetic disorder that I have
had my entire life, and it actually explains everything. Why organs are
failing and why my spine is rapidly degenerating. I know my autoimmune disease
has contributed too but I believe based on my symptoms this came later in my
life. Perhaps if diagnosed earlier some of the issues and surgeries could have
been prevented.
Unfortunately, now there isn’t
really any treatment options that can help me at this point. My husband will
say... “she doesn’t get better from this, she dies from this”.
A couple weeks ago I received
the final blood testing report from my genetic counselor that reveals that I
also have a rare life-threatening heart disorder called Brugada syndrome. This
is a condition that causes a disruption of the heart's normal rhythm.
Specifically, this disorder can lead to irregular heartbeats in the heart's
lower chambers (ventricles), which is an abnormality called ventricular
arrhythmia. While there may surgical options in the future, these may not be
options for me because of my body’s over reaction to minor injury.
I won’t sugarcoat this. Being
in my body is a living hell. I wake up every day in excruciating pain. Every
piece of me hurts. Some days I can’t stop throwing up, and/or I break out
in ulcers in my mouth, throat and other areas ( caused from Bechets ).
Every day is some degree of a migraine, stomach pain, and so on. Some days I can eat “ almost normal” food, and other days I have to stick to
liquids, or not able to eat at all.
Yet I am thankful. I am
thankful because there are now days that I can eat, I am now at a healthy
weight and most importantly it could be and has been worse. ‘’Better than
I was” has become my motto.
Now to bring you to my happier
ever after. Yes, being in my body is a living hell, however having
experienced hell from my past and the loss of my health , this has given me an
insane appreciation for what I do have. So I will keep focusing on gratitude
each day that I am blessed enough to wake up to.
I am surrounded by incredible
people in my life. I have an amazing husband that has shown me unconditional
love, marrying him gave me a son and daughter I always wanted, and now three
adorable grand babies. I have amazing friends and family that support me.
My heart is full.... and not just of fluid ;). No matter how much time I am
given I know that I lived the best life I could despite my challenges. So
instead of focusing on my pain I strive to focus on joy. It’s not easy and I
fall a lot, but I keep getting back up.
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I am often told "you don't look sick". I thank
them, because I would hate to look like I feel!
Although, I will admit sometimes having a
hidden illness is difficult when doctors won't take you
seriously because of the way you look.
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Health brings a freedom most seldom realize until they no longer have it. I hope my story
inspires you to cherish yours ❤ ️Laurie